Reiki for first timers

Such a delight to share what Reiki is to a first timer today.

How do you describe Reiki to someone that has never had it or anything like it before, but trusts you and is desperate for some help with their pain?

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The answer is, you don’t. You explain enough to let them know what’s expected of them and what they might experience and then you let yourself be guided by intuition and the healing do it’s thing.

As Reiki practitioners you don’t have to have all the answers, you just have to listen and be in the moment.

Our bodies are talking to us all the time, telling us where we’re going against our wishes, when our burdens have got too much to bear alone, when we’re frightened to move forwards and when we’re more upset than we really let on.

When we listen to our bodies we get insights into where to go next, what we love, what sustains us and what resources to invest in.

I’m not special
It takes no special skill to do this, I am not ‘gifted’ in any way, I simply liked the idea of being able to do this, so I trained up so I could. It really is that simple.

I sent today’s client home with a leaflet so she can read up on what she has just experienced. If it is right she’ll come back and have more, and if it isn’t, she won’t.

Despite what some people say, there is no set way anyone has to deal with their challenges and I’ve never seen it written anywhere we have to deal with our challenges at all – because, and this is the most important point to remember at all – we are already perfect, just as we are.

Do you Love yourself?

Today’s client came because she was having a tough time going through a particularly challenging divorce and the stress was making her unwell.

We’re 6 sessions into a block of 9. Each one has been peeling back a layer of ineffective coping mechanisms that has enabled her to survive with the resources she had but has also kept her stuck and caused her much pain.

Today we hit the bottom of the biggest unravelling of all – the question of “Do I love me?”

Without love you’ll never do the necessary work to survive, you’d give up and let circumstances take you.
She quite readily admitted she’d grown up in a loveless environment and had spent her whole adult life seeking love outside of her Self. It had never occurred to her whether she loved her Self or not.

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I’ve sent her off with the homework to go discover whether she does or not.
Sometimes we’ve taken on so many ideas and beliefs from others it’s easy to come to the conclusion we’re unlovable, especially if it happened early in life. Knowing no better we simply copy the behaviours of those around us.

We treat ourselves with the same contempt, criticism, indifference and ingratitude we are familiar with from our childhood. It’s not that are parents were bad people, it’s just they didn’t know how important it was to love things as they were, choosing instead to focus on us getting a good education, excelling at a musical instrument or sport or getting a well paid job. These are worthy things, but unsustainable sources of love without a strong foundation of Self Love.

Self Love helps you to make decisions in your best interest rather than in the interest of the people around you.

To healthy people Self Love makes you very attractive and someone people like to be around.

However, Self Love doesn’t always make you popular. Sometimes, if we are surrounded by people that rely on us for their sense of identity, then our Self Love would be very threatening to them, because you might leave them – and then they would have to experience deal with the emptiness they experience because they don’t love themselves either. These people can have devious and manipulative ways to get you to stay. They make it out you are as free as a bird to do what you like, but you are not. They use tactics as feining illness, guilt or criticism to make you feel inadequate or to show you how much your behaviour hurts and harms them.

Don’t be fooled! The most loving thing we can do is this situation is lead the way on role modelling Self Love.

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Self Love seeks life enriching experiences and life enriching company. Self love tells people no and sets boundaries. Self Love listens to your instincts and champions being your own biggest advocate. Self Love listens to you own inner voice more than those of others. Self Love knows when to stop and when you are being too easy on yourself. Finally, Self Love knows you are worthy and never gives up on you.

At the end of the day the truth is, to get by in life, Self Love is all you have.

What to look for in a Reiki couch

One of my clients is purchasing a Reiki couch, so I thought it would be good to impart some wisdom on Reiki couches, what is good, what to avoid and what works.

First of all there is a plethora of Reiki couches out there from £60 new to £300+, and of course free or for very little if you look on Gumtree.

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The very first one I bought (pictured) I got from a firm via eBay for about £80. It was a good first couch and it got me going, but it had the downside of being a bit narrow for larger clients and after a while the foam went thin meaning you ended up feeling like you were lying on a hard board!

I bought my latest one from http://www.sportandleisureuk.com/massage/massage-tables after a lot of research. This time around I was keen to get a decent amount of memory foam topping, so I went for 8cm, and I wanted the full width, which is 72cm. This couch also came with a bolster for going under the knees or ankles, which was a bonus. The curved edges were a nice touch, though it does have the slight disadvantage of not having the legs 100% in each corner. This is easily rectified, I lean on it to make sure it stays secure when people get on!

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Reiki couches are shaped differently to a massage couch

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A stool is useful

For Reiki couches in general you need something you can get your knees under when sitting. Massage couches often have a bar at about ankle hight, whereas Reiki couches are cut away as you can see.

You also need something that is adjustable in height so you set it up to be of maximum comfort to you (a stool for your clients is then is good if you are tall or like the couch to be high). Reiki positions can need to be held for a long time, so it’s important you get this right.

You’ll also want to be aware of the maximum weight a couch can take. Most will be fine, but good to check if you are buying a cheaper one.

Finally, do you need it to be transportable? If you do home visits you’ll need something you can easily put in your car and carry. Some of the metal couches can be very strong,  but also very heavy. I often put mine out into the garden so something that isn’t too heavy is a bonus.

A couch is quite a personal purchase and if you make the right investment it will be with you for a while. By looking at the couches other people have and trying them for yourself, you will soon get an idea.

And enjoy! Purchasing a Reiki couch should be an enjoyable experience as after all it means you get to treat, get treated and generally share the love!

The Art of Reiki

I was wondering the other day when did Reiki become a ‘thing’?

I ask because we hosted a Holistic Day and I had the great honour to introduce three people to the practice of Reiki.

Each of them was delighted to experience the warm and nurturing energy that comes as part of a Reiki treatment and equally delighted to realise that they to have the ability to create calmness within a person simply by the laying on of hands.
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I was wondering when did we, as a human race, stop instinctively giving ourselves and those in need the time of day and placing our hands on areas where there is tension, pain, an injury or tiredness? When did we forget that given the right resources even the most debilitating of circumstances can be turned around with enough love and attention? When did we forget we are a soul first, and a body and mind second?

I could link it to modern life and how busy people seem to be these days, but to be fair I haven’t been around long enough on this planet to comment.

What I do know is there many people that are suffering from illnesses of the body, mind, relationships, environment and finances that do not appreciate they already posses the skill and innate ability to bring about balance and heal themselves.

One of my roles as a Reiki teacher is to reconnect people back to this instinctive knowledge and help them find their own path.

Some come to my courses to help themselves deal with a challenge such as a long-term health problem, some to learn about themselves or to dive deeper into the practice of peace, whilst some come to learn how to support family members and friends. A Reiki level 1 course will do all these things and it is my honour to share with people the tools to help themselves and others, and take them through the initiation process. Along with learning the background information behind the practice of Reiki, the core principles Dr Mikao Usui encouraged his students and clients to live by and the basic hand positions, learning Reiki with a fully qualified teacher includes a number of ‘attunements’ that allows the energy to flow through an individual’s crown and out through their hands.

Hands that heal, hands that harm…
Whilst I was wondering about how Reiki ceased to be a part of humanities daily life in the modern Western world, I was also well aware that whilst our hands can be exceptional tools for health, comfort, support and nurture, they can also be weapons. By this I mean they can strangle, smack, pinch, punch, pull and molest and be the source of much suffering and pain.

I want to bring people back to the knowing they have this wonderful innate healing ability within them, and support them to learn, develop and apply this ability to bring peace and harmony to all of humanity. I want people to experience what it is like to have a strong connection to your Self and to trust your instincts and I want people to experience the joy and bliss of giving.

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Rachel receiving her Level 1 certificate

I will be running Reiki Level 1 and Level 2 courses in Mark Cross, East Sussex over the next 2-3 months. If this sounds like something you would like to know more about then please get in touch to have a chat with me to find out if Reiki is right for you. Simply get in touch via 01892 853518 or send an email via my contact page.

A great day of teaching

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Today I had a wonderful day teaching. The conversation was so rich and diverse, steeped in curiosity and exploration. Reiki isn’t just about a series of hand positions, it’s an exploration into what it is like to be human. It’s a discussion on how the body speaks the mind, an exploration into how we may have become disconnected from source (without realising it) and what it means to be aligned with who you are – the hand positions are just a means to get there.

I’ve lost count of how many different people I have worked with, each with their own journey and story. Some stay with me for a while, others it’s a fleeting experience. What I trust is that they are all with me for as long as they need, with some returning years later when they are ready again.

That’s what I love about Reiki, it works so much with intuition, helping you trust and develop your own. My own personal experience has been a huge wake up call to how much we are divinely guided if we only open ourselves up to it.

Tomorrow we’ll look at the 5 Reiki Precepts, the behavioural cornerstones that Usui put together to help people create a behavioural moral compass so that all the good healing work doesn’t come undone. These precepts include ‘be kind to all living things’ and ‘do not worry’ – two great pieces of advice for anyone.

When we are finished my Level 1 students are able to treat themselves, friends and family. I send them off with a 21 day healing journey, a nod to Usui’s time on Mount Kurama. In that period they will get to learn about the various facets of Reiki and how it can be soothing when you are low and calming when you are anxious and your energy is high. They will learn about themselves and become more aware of their own body and emotions; a great foundation for when they work with others.

In short it is a full mind, body and soul learning. I like to bring in my experience from my other therapies as much as possible as I encourage my students to bring all their life and learning experiences too. Together we explore the subject and have a wonderful time.

Is your energy ascending or descending?

The quickest way to know is to check in with yourself. Have you been putting credits in the ascending bank account by paying yourself and other compliments? Seeing the good in things? Being grateful?  Loving yourself and others? Feeding yourself well? Taking enough time out to get quality rest? Being part of a community you can reach out and ask for help from and give help back to? Listening to your needs and supplying them?

Or have you…

Been criticising and blaming others? Resisting how things are? Wanting everyone else to change? Fault finding? Making your time, love and affection conditional? Eating junk? Disregarding your needs and pushing through despite your inner voice saying no? Shutting everyone else out? Thinking you’re superior? Living with an energy of entitlement?

The good news is, even if you’re the later you can turn things around right now. A kind thought, word, deed to yourself is others stops a downward spiral and makes it an upwards one. Two nice kind thoughts, words, deeds gets you even further up and so on and so forth.

There will be obstacles on the way, they are a test of your resolve. If you truly want happiness you will perserve no matter how tough it gets.

Reiki is a wonderfully positive way to give to yourself or others. In the First Degree course you learn to be permanently connected to life force energy (you are already much more familiar with it than you think), how to channel it for yourself and others and the basic hand positions and when Reiki can be used (in everything!). This 2 day course is a decadent exploration into spirituality, what it means to be a spiritual being and how to consciously engage with it.

The next course date is 13 – 14th Aug in Mark Cross, East Sussex with two spaces remaining. Contact me on 01892 853518 if you would like to find out more!

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Your beliefs shape your experiences

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The mind (ego) constantly looks for evidence to support your (mind made) beliefs.

If you want to change your life, let go of your thinking, let go of your beliefs.

Instead connect back to your body; all of it. Here you can live in truth.

Your amazing body is a giant sensory feedback organism that tells you about its environment and what it needs in order to be well.

So many that suffer have disconnected from their amazing bodies and live their existence from their tiny and life limiting mind. This results in dis-ease.

By reconnecting to our bodies we start to heal the rift between heart and mind and put ourselves back into balance.

The greatest feeling in the world is the heart and mind working as it was designed to, in perfect balance. It literally transcends us to a place of bliss.

This is not fantasy but a real and achievable reality.

It all starts with you.

Make a choice.

Drop your beliefs. Let go of your thinking. Be innocent. Open yourself up to what is possible.

Join me.

I want you to experience who you really are.

I want you to be well.

We come from source, we return to source

I know the loss of a loved one is very difficult for people and with so many of my clients and connections at the moment experiencing loss I have been pondering on it a lot.

I have never really had a problem with death. My family used to say I was heartless, but I’ve never seen it as an issue.

A couple of years back we lost our beautiful mare Olive to colic, a horse that had been with us for 23 years. In such an instance you don’t actually loose them – you watch the turn of events unfold and then when all the possible interventions don’t pan out you have to make the heart wrenching decision to have them put to sleep to save them the agony when their death is inevitable.

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Olive was a wonderful teacher

I stayed with Olive till the end. You could see she didn’t want to go, getting up between the euthanasia injections as if to say ‘I’m staying!’. I Ascended with her (a form of meditation I do) and permitted her soul to leave the physical plane and return to source.

It was very peaceful after that. Tears were ones of gratitude, she’d been an exceptional friend, teacher and companion and she was nearing 29, so she’d had a good in innings – far better than was expected. We were 100% up to date with each other too, with no unfinished business, so that made things easier ad well.

Olive taught me a very valuable lesson in her passing on, and that was that of course she wasn’t gone – just no longer physically present. She had come from source, manifested a physical reality and had returned to source.

A short while after I was helping out at a horse event for a crystal friend. Being surrounded for the whole day by hundreds of beautiful crystals was wonderful! When I came to leave one stood out, a small agate and quartz heart, half brown, half white. It seemed impossible to leave without it so I purchased it and put it in my pocket. I didn’t feel a particular draw to it, I just knew I couldn’t leave without it.

IMG_20150514_105741On returning home I put the remainder of our herd to bed at 7pm as always and my pocket began to burn! I realised at that point, the crystal wasn’t for me, it was for Murphy – the alpha male of he herd and the horse equivalent of Olive’s husband.

That crystal still remains in Murphy’s night pen, half brown to represent Olive and half white to represent him. I call it ‘the heart of the herd’ and call upon it when I am in need.

My sense is that Olive’s soul has moved on now, but the heart reminds me we are souls that live in a body and not the other way around, and she is there whenever I need.

Now I make it my purpose to get to know peoples souls, not their temporary physical form or egos and façades. If I didn’t I too could see myself being crippled by a persons passing for I would not have known the true them whilst it was easy and now the opportunity has gone.

I have friends now that I know this isn’t my only lifetime with. Olive was definitely a close connection to me, and I have others including a twin, a son and another sister or half sister I all consider to be part of my soul group and of great importance (even if we are not physically close). I even have issues with some of these people I have to work through where I perhaps left for this mortal plane before them and they are hurt and upset because of it! I work through these feelings and do what I must to help the other person become whole and return connection to balance.

I’d love to hear your stories of soul groups and connections with those on a different plane. I know I am not alone in experiencing this phenomena and I think if more people understood its existence they wouldn’t fear the passing of those they feel close to as they would know that they haven’t gone and they will be reunited with them in the end. xx

The Solution to Everything is LOVE

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It might sound contrite, particularly on a blog post about Equine Facilitated Learning, but the big theme that is coming out from my herd at the moment is:

“The solution to everything is LOVE”

It’s hard to spend as much time with the horses as I would like over the winter. Temperatures of around 0 degrees is barely conducive to spending large amounts of time outside when there is a cosy log burner inside, but this year I needed them more than most and I’ve paid for my absence in stress.

So now I’m not willing to tolerate that stress any longer, some warmer days and a good nudge from a friend I’ve been “hanging out” daily and it’s been working wonders.

WP_20150225_001[1] Hanging out with the team means quality time in their ‘presence’.

I’ve said it many times before, but its always worth saying again – the horses biggest gift…

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